Keep Commitments to Yourself
When there is a gap between what you say you will do and what you actually do, you rob yourself of confidence. For example, if you tell yourself you are going to cook a healthy meal after work, but change plans in order to go shopping with a friend, you chip away a little bit off of your confidence. Why? Because you compromised your word to yourself. Nobody else even has to know about. YOU are the person it has affected the most because you weren’t able to trust your own word. It’s the same with telling a lie. Even if no one else knows the truth YOU do. When it comes down to it, that’s all that matters.
You can also build your confidence back up bit by bit. Let’s say your goal is to lose some pounds but you don’t have the motivation to even start because you feel overwhelmed when you think of the long road ahead. Begin by setting a task for yourself. Make it a baby one at first, like….drinking one extra glass of water every day. No matter what, pour yourself that extra glass even if you have to get up out of bed and put your mouth over the faucet because you forgot. When that new habit has been well established, add another small step. This time you commit to walking around only one small block a day. Nothing more, just one time around the block is all you have to do.The trick is to do it no matter what, even if it’s a wimpy attempt. Before you know it, the once around the block may turn into two and…well you get the picture. You’re actually moving your body more. This strategy really helps with habits you want to build, not with habits you want to break like addictions. Those kind of habits sometimes require professional help of a different kind. However, this strategy can help you take an action such as making a call to find professional help.
In closing, I want to make three points. First, we ruin our own confidence when we don’t keep our word, even to ourselves. Second, confidence can be built. We are not stuck with the amount we presently have. And third, little steps are the way, not huge commitments that set us up to fail again and perpetuate the failure cycle.