Very few of us are born into the perfect environment where our confidence is nurtured every minute of the day starting at birth. Our natural dispositions, our home environment, families, schools, teachers, religious training all play a big role, especially at early age, in how we perceive ourselves. They all have an effect on our level of self-confidence. Confidence determining factors continue through what we experience, read and see in life and from them we form our impressions and intentions. We create from our impressions and intentions.
The good news is that we can do something about raising our own self-confidence. It is ultimately up to us to make that happen. Yes, this will take time, raising awareness, insights, perhaps outside help, and the need to create new habits and let go of old ones. Brain research has proven that brain can change, it is not as plastic as they once thought. A new way of thinking is possible.
Why Confidence? Confidence is the key to taking actions in order to make changes in our life so we can reach goals and realize our dreams. Without a healthy dollop of confidence to take actions, why even bother having a dream or wanting more? Do you know anyone who is stuck? What would a new dose of confidence do for them?
As I mentioned earlier, we can raise our confidence level. It takes awareness of both our inner and outer selves. By inner self I’m referring to knowing who you are in this world; not what you do and how you act, but rather who you really are. Your inner self is associated to your thoughts, your impressions, your beliefs and your “take” on what happens around you. We all interpret and make sense of the world differently. A self understanding is fertile ground to choosing responses to the world rather than reacting from emotion.
Your outer world is how you operate in the physical world. It includes areas such as, how you dress, words you use, how you interact with others, tackle new projects; simply how you interact with life. The world acts like a mirror. What you think on the inside is reflected back to you in the physical world. When you make changes in your behavior you get different responses. Favorable responses from others add to your self-confidence.
There are many excellent books on the market promising to increase your confidence level so that’s a good place to begin.. However, just reading and knowing what to do is not going to make the difference you’re looking for. Putting the ideas to regular practice is the key so consider working with a coach to help keep you on track.
Here are few questions I’ll leave you with…..
1.How would you be living your life if you had more confidence to do whatever you really desired?
2. What have you been holding back from doing? What is the price you pay for not doing what you really want?
3. What will it take to move forward?